#1 Tip on Improving Your Body Language Confidence

• 00:05 As we continue with the course,
• 00:07 you're going to get highly specific advice on how to pair your body language for
• 00:12 face to face meetings, speeches, presentations and media interviews.
• 00:16 But before we get to the specifics,
• 00:18 I want to give you one overriding solution to almost all of your problems.
• 00:24 Here it is.
• 00:25 For any type of business situation you're in.
• 00:28 I want you to practice what it is you're doing.
• 00:31 From standing around at a networking event,
• 00:35 chatting with people informally to having a one on one sit down presentation
• 00:40 to a standing up presentation to a media interview.
• 00:44 I want you to actually practice on video.
• 00:46 And you can just hold your cell phone up, like that.
• 00:50 Or you can use a webcam.
• 00:51 Or you can use an iPhone, or an iPad.
• 00:54 Doesn't matter the quality of the video.
• 00:57 What matters is that you can see yourself and hear yourself.
• 01:01 You've got to practice it on video and look at it.
• 01:05 Now, that's not gonna help you in and of itself.
• 01:09 You have to go to the next step.
• 01:10 Very few people are willing to do the next step.
• 01:13 But it is the single biggest factor in helping you go over the top.
• 01:19 And get to that point, where you are 100% comfortable and
• 01:24 confident with your body language in every situation, and here's the next step.
• 01:29 You'll have to practice on video, watch it, figure out what you like and
• 01:32 don't like, but then you have to do it again.
• 01:36 Record it again, watch it, figure out what you like about your body language,
• 01:41 what you not like and do it again.
• 01:46 So, stack of things you like about your body language should be getting taller and
• 01:50 taller and taller.
• 01:51 The stack of things you don't like should be getting smaller and
• 01:54 smaller and smaller.
• 01:56 You've got to keep doing this until you like how you're coming across.
• 02:03 At that moment, doesn't mean everyone else in the whole world will love you,
• 02:07 but it does mean you won't be nervous anymore.
• 02:11 You won't be wondering, well, what do I do with my hands?
• 02:14 Is my tongue coming out every two, you don't have to wonder about that.
• 02:20 You will have evidence, your own video.
• 02:23 You will know how you're coming across.
• 02:26 As I mentioned in earlier lectures, the biggest problem most people have with
• 02:30 their body language is because they're nervous, because they're uncomfortable.
• 02:35 They start doing self-conscious things.
• 02:38 Looking around, staring around, freezing themselves, holding their hands awkwardly.
• 02:42 All of these things happen
• 02:46 because you're not comfortable and you're not certain with how you're coming across.
• 02:51 If you know you're coming across, the absolute best you can.
• 02:56 And the way you want to it becomes virtually impossible to be nervous and
• 03:01 that solves not every single problem.
• 03:05 But it solves a lot of problems.
• 03:07 There can always be small, subtle variations of body language,
• 03:13 expectations, from one culture to another.
• 03:16 You could have bad breath and everything else is fine but
• 03:18 the person smells your breath.
• 03:20 I can't cover that in this particular course though,
• 03:24 my point is there's nothing 100% fool proof.
• 03:26 But if you follow this one technique
• 03:31 in my experience you will have eliminated about 98% of
• 03:35 the potential problems you have with your body language in a business situation.
• 03:40 So, you take away nothing else from this course, please take this away.
• 03:45 Rehearse whatever it is you're going to be doing in this business situation.
• 03:50 Standing and networking at a cocktail party, talking one on one,
• 03:54 small presentation, presentation to a large group or a medium group.
• 03:58 Rehearse repeatedly, on video.
• 04:01 And watch it until you love every single aspect of how you looked and sound.

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