About this lesson
How to meet people and make business connections while appearing comfortable and approachable.
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So you're going to that networking event, a cocktail party, it could be at
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an industry conference, could be at a convention and there's a networking event.
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For a lot of people, this is nerve wracking,
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you feel uncomfortable especially if you don't know anyone.
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So what a lot of people do?
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They get one drink and they're sort of sipping it, and they're kind of standing
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in the corner, looking around, nervous and frankly, a little creepy.
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You don't want to be that guy or that woman.
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You also don't want to avoid what could be a perfectly good event,
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something that could advance your career because you're uncomfortable and
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you don't know what to do or what to say.
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So here are some tips on how to use body language
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in a more effective way when you're going to a network event.
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For starters, as soon as you walk in, look like you're happy to be there.
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Not a gigantic, fake smile, but just be up.
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Good posture, a little bit of a smile on your face.
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Look around and see if anyone is willing to give you eye contact.
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Now if two people are close to each other and
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they're having a very serious conversation,
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you don't wanna just butt in, hi, my name is TJ and here's my business card.
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No, you don't wanna do that.
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You want to read the signals and
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see are people open to someone else coming in and talking?
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Is there an openness, do they have an open body language, or
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are they two people closed off?
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Don't invade their privacy if they're two good friends really catching up
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on each other's lives.
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But if you see other people smiling, milling about,
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feel free to go up and make a little comment.
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Say, isn't the food nice?
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Having fun?
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This is great.
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Hi, my name is.
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There's all sorts of things you can say.
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It's not that any one thing is perfect, the thing is,
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your body language needs to be open.
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You need to exude the sense of I'm happy to be here, I'm having fun.
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Here are some things to avoid.
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You don't want to run right to the food,
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get a big plate, fill it up, and then all your hands are filled up.
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It's just too hard to meet people.
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Your body language is saying hey, I'm hungry, I'm poor, I wanna get free food.
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In fact, the best thing for networking events - eat before you get there or
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plan on eating afterwards.
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You want your hands free so
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you can use that part of body language we talked about in the earlier lecture.
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You want to be able to shake people's hands.
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If they ask for your card or you ask for theirs, you wanna be able to get one or
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to get theirs and put it in your pocket.
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So the more your hands are free, the better.
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Now let's talk about drinks.
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I'm no teetotaller.
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There is nothing wrong with a drink but if you're at a networking event,
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make sure your drink is in your left hand if it's a cold drink.
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Because if it's in your right hand, it makes your hand all cold and clammy and
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it's just kind of weird when people feel it for that shake.
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So keep your hand in your left hand and I don't want to be dogmatic or
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give you an ironclad rule here, but in general, if it's an event
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where you really think you're gonna be making important prospects,
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maybe you're job hunting, I would even avoid alcohol on your breath.
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Because, if people can smell the alcohol on you,
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that may be the thing that sticks out in their memory.
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Well we might want to invite this person in for a job interview,
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but I just remembered this sort of rancid wine smell on their breath.
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You could have had just a few sips.
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Different people react in different ways.
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You're safer just having water.
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Seltzer water with a lemon or lime, that's the safest thing.
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I don't want to be a killjoy.
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I certainly enjoy a nice glass of wine, and have at many networking events.
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But if the stakes are really high, you're really there for
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business, and to talk to people and to really exchange
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information, I would just go with seltzer water.
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Forget the food, eat before or after and talk to people,
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have conversations, be friendly, move around,
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don't stalk people, don't stay in the corner and
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try to talk to people who look like they're willing to be talked to.
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If there's someone standing there eating, that's a perfect target.
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Just walk up to them and make some small time chat, so
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small chat and you'll be in good shape.
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Don't worry about holding things in your hands.
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Don't worry about I have to have a drink if the bar line is long.
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Just go up and talk to people.
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Move, a little bit of a smile on your face, do that and
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your body language will help you in these networking events.
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It won't make you look stiff or scared or uncomfortable, it won't scare people away,
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it will draw people to you and that's exactly what you want.
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