No Goals Means No Success

• 00:04 The biggest possible mistake you can have regarding setting
• 00:09 goals in life, no goals whatsoever.
• 00:13 And this is amazingly common with a lot of people.
• 00:15 Now, the fact that you're in this course and this far into this course,
• 00:20 means you are serious about setting goals.
• 00:22 That's great.
• 00:23 But perhaps up till now you've kind of drifted through life without any goals.
• 00:28 Because let's face it, there's so many other people and
• 00:32 organizations ready to hand you their list of goals.
• 00:35 Your parents may have tried to tell you your goal in life is to be a doctor or
• 00:40 a lawyer or an engineer.
• 00:42 You may have had teachers or professors tell you your goal is to do this.
• 00:48 Certainly, if you have any connection to the Internet, which I know you do,
• 00:53 every major corporation in the world has goals for
• 00:56 you as far as how you can send them money to buy their products and services.
• 01:01 Or to watch their content so that they can make money and sell advertising.
• 01:07 So that's the big problem with not having goals,
• 01:11 is we now live in a world where you are bombarded, inundated, all day long,
• 01:16 every second of the day with thousands, sometimes tens of thousands
• 01:20 of messages from other people telling you what your goals should be.
• 01:26 So the first big step if you want to be able to set goals is to realize if
• 01:31 you don't have any goals and then to realize the problem.
• 01:35 The problem is typically is you're not giving your
• 01:40 brain actual time to think and reflect.
• 01:45 If you're connected 24/7, as so many people are, and as you and
• 01:50 I are now, you'll never have time to create and set your own goals.
• 01:56 Because every second you're connected to the Internet,
• 02:00 you're being bombarded by other people's goals for you.
• 02:04 And we'll talk about this at length later on in the course when it comes
• 02:09 to the section on your own self-control, your own personal agency.
• 02:15 But you've got to carve out some time just for
• 02:19 you without being bombarded by any other messages.
• 02:24 That means time away from the television, away from the laptop,
• 02:29 the iPad, your cell phone.
• 02:32 You've got to have time just for you.
• 02:34 It even means time away from print magazines and books,
• 02:37 even though I do think it's great to spend some time every day reading books.
• 02:42 You got to have some time for personal reflection.
• 02:47 It could be in the form of a walk, which is something I do every single day, and
• 02:51 try to walk for an hour a day.
• 02:54 You could say, TJ, that's unrealistic, I don't have an hour a day.
• 02:57 You've got to carve out some time,
• 03:00 even if it's just ten minutes on a bus, or a train on your way to work,
• 03:05 or a ten minute walk around the block at your house with your dog.
• 03:10 You've got to carve out some time to actively think,
• 03:16 contemplate, reflect on your vision of the good life.
• 03:21 And I realize that sounds pretentious, but
• 03:25 whether you do it or not, it has to be done.
• 03:29 It's going to be done by other people who are telling you the good life is
• 03:33 about buying this kind of automobile and wearing this kind of sneaker to
• 03:38 make yourself look good to others, or it's going to be done by you.
• 03:43 It cannot be done by you if you don't give yourself time to reflect.
• 03:53 So I believe you have to do this every single day.
• 03:56 There's different methods of doing it.
• 03:57 I meditate every day, I recommend that, but you don't have to.
• 04:02 Go for a walk every day, do something.
• 04:06 And by the way, leave your phone at home.
• 04:08 Going for a walk doesn't really relax you or give you time to reflect if you're like
• 04:12 most people I see who are on walks and they're doing this the whole time.
• 04:16 And their head is buried down, checking email and on the phone,
• 04:21 you might as well stay at home.
• 04:23 You've got to give yourself time every day to reflect because your goals can change.
• 04:31 Your tactics on how you reach your goals can change.
• 04:35 But you're not going to be able to figure this out,
• 04:39 you won't figure out what's best for you, if you don't have time.
• 04:44 You're not going to have time to think about your goals, reflect on your goals,
• 04:49 set goals that are in your best interest if you don't push away all the other
• 04:55 images, ideas, and messages from other people trying to give you their goal.
• 05:00 So here's the assignment.
• 05:03 I want you to figure out some part of every day when you're
• 05:08 not looking at a screen, where you can just reflect on goals.
• 05:13 Could be soon as you get up.
• 05:15 It could be, I don't recommend this, but
• 05:17 it could be five minutes before you go to bed.
• 05:20 Most people are watching TV or videos or YouTube and then brushing their teeth and
• 05:24 go into bed.
• 05:27 Most people when they're commuting are listening to music.
• 05:30 And music is great, but that's not what is really
• 05:36 going to give you time to think and reflect.
• 05:42 And it shouldn't be when you're tired.
• 05:46 You need to be up, I believe, earlier in the day.
• 05:51 Because if you're tired and you're thinking, it's time to go to sleep and
• 05:56 let me just put my head down and now I'll think about it,
• 06:00 that's not the time for reflection, that's time to just drift away.
• 06:05 So don't do that.
• 06:06 So share with us right now here in the student Facebook page or
• 06:11 the Q&A section what is a specific time of day you're going
• 06:16 to spend every single day to reflect on your life's goals?

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